May 29, 2012

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I didn’t have a live show today because I was attending a funeral. The family did everything right! Our friend, Don Reeves, had escaped death years ago and then planned his own funeral. He chose the speakers, the music, who would perform, and the order of it all. His oldest and youngest sons spoke. His daughter-in-law and grandchildren sang and played special musical numbers. Believing Don was there in spirit, I know his family made him proud!

My daughter was also attending a funeral, but she described it as a “train wreck.” While family members were chosen to participate in the service, they obviously weren’t prepared. The family struggled to pull it all together after this man’s death, and apparently it showed. People with beautiful voices sang, but they didn’t know the words. The message delivered wasn’t necessarily what you might have expected.   It’s sad that this good man’s final tribute was not what it could have been.

We shared our views on the two funerals and what a contrast there was. She said, “Mom, I just wanted to tell everyone they needed your book!   It could have been so much easier for the family if this man had prepared them ahead of time.”     My daughter is one of my biggest cheerleaders in anything I do, but with that aside, she sees the need for this preparation.

Like it or not, we are all going to experience death.  It is part of the process of life.    The best thing you can do for your grieving and shocked family is to let them know what to do when the time comes.  Likewise, talk to your spouse, your parents, your children, and encourage them to write down their information.

Age has nothing to do with it.   We tend to think we have plenty of time to get our affairs in order, but last month there was a murder/suicide in our close  community.  The young mother of a 2 year old was only 24 years old.   Before killing himself, the husband wrote a note to say who should raise their child, and that was it.

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